Whether is be a boy or a girl. I don't really care.
A girl would be awesome, of course. A sweet baby girl to be adored by her big brothers! Love it. But, it would complicate things. No sharing rooms for Christian and said baby girl for very long. Always need a house with an extra room. Instead of 4 kids sharing 2 rooms, we would need at least 3.
And then there is the issue of brotherhood. Ben and Jake are so close in age and so close to each other. The best of friends. Always 2 years apart in school. And then there is little Christian. 4 years behind Jake in school. 6 from Ben. So, no chance of ever being in school with them. They are so great with him, but will he be close to them? If we had another boy close to his age, we could have another "Ben and Jake" situation, which would be awesome. Not to say that if Christian had a sister close to his age, that he couldn't be close to her, but I'm not sure it would be the same.....
Either way, the argument for having another baby lies in 2 parts.
1) I don't think I will ever lose this feeling of wanting another one. And I don't mean "baby hungry" like a lot of women say they may always be. I mean, someone's missing. Family wonderful, but incomplete?
2) Christian could have a buddy. And that makes me happy. Nothing makes me happier than seeing Ben and Jake grow up together and be the best of friends and comrades. Today I heard this,
JAKE: "Why did you just hit me on the head like that?"
BEN: "I wasn't hitting you buddy, I was patting you." (and he really was this time!)
JAKE: "Why?"
BEN: "Because I love you Jake."
JAKE: "Oh, because I built you such an awesome lego guy?"
Ben: "No Jake, just because you're you."
Serious. No embellishing at all-I swear. I love it. I love my brother and am glad we were close and could experience things together. We covered for each other (which I am totally dreading when my kids start doing that instead of ratting each other out over everything!) We looked out for each other. He was the only person in the world I looked up to, admired and trusted. And I wish I would have had him in HS a little longer with me. Might have kept me out of trouble! Probably not. Maybe I am answering my own questions as I hash this post out. Maybe Christian could have the same bond with his sister, just like my brother and I. But would he feel excluded from his brothers? I don't know.
All I know is, I want another baby. Not today. Not tomorrow. But the next day. Just kidding! Boy or Girl, it truly wouldn't matter. I would even adopt. I would love to not be pregnant again with my health issues during pregnancy. But, I would probably miss not doing it one more time. Who knows. I would love to not find out what I am having one time. How fun. I would also adopt, no problem. I don't know. That seems to be the theme of this post. Not knowing. I guess I do that well.
Well, not sure if any of this even made sense and I'm not going to read it again to see. It came from the heart and I don't want to edit that.
Kim
7 comments:
I love this rant!!! Just get her knocked up already!!!! Really... what big of a difference is one more going to make? I am on your side Kim, make babies! You guys are so good at it. I adore your boys :)
I hear once you have 3, you can have a 100! Don't know how true that is! But if you think there is another waiting for you, go for it! Don't worry about age space and time. My kids are 7 years apart and I can honestly say they are buddies, play together and truly love each other so much! I stressed over the gap, but I love I had so much 1 on 1 with each of them! Oh and having 4 kids is very very tough!
good for you! if you feel like someone's missing then why not? i do think you are a little crazy but that is just because i think 3 is all that i can handle. but then again i did have all three of mine in between your last two. i know lily only came a couple of months after jake but that still counts. i just can't handle all of the noise.
i also have to say that jack and lily are the best of friends. sometimes i feel sorry for asher because lily and jack play together so much. though i do have to say that jack is just as happy to play dress up as when he is wielding his sword trying to slay a dragon. i guess he will be well rounded.
miss ya
ME TOO!!!!!!!! :)
I go back and forth on whether or not I want one more. I am really enjoying not thinking about being pregnant or having another newborn baby while having other kids to run all over and to play with. I really do think we'll do 1 more... maybe. Mine have all just had so many issues and have been soooo much work. Both the pregnancy's and once they're here. Makes me worried to have another.
And when you think about spacing dont let it stress you out. All your children will feel special and loved. You are not going to make them or break them because of gaps in age. Charity and I are super close, always have been, and we have 7 1/2 years between us.
I think you need to listen to that intuition but I also think you need to do it at the right time. Its a hard balance.
I think sometimes I should just hurry up and get the last one here so that we can be done. Then I laugh at myself. I will have another one when I feel ready. I dont want to be so concerned with being done that I do it all so quickly and drive myself crazy in the process.... now Im rambling!
So... have your baby but dont let time get you so worried.
I think we should sell Christian. We'd get a good price and then we wouldn't have to worry about the age gaps or rooming issues. Plus we'd have some extra money in our savings account.
Very funny, honey. See what I have to deal with girls?
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